How to deal with prostate cancer in the family? How to find last resorts?
My 76-year-old father has had to battle prostate cancer for 4 years now. He’s had 2 surgeries the past couple of years, and another 2 two years before the recent one. We thought he was saved after the fourth surgery (which really was a corrective surgery because the stupid surgeon ‘accidentally’ cut my dad’s lymph node and he had to undergo 2 surgeries in 2 days).
Lately my dad’s prostate has swollen up again… he went to the doctor (I wasn’t there as I go to school/university and work almost 24/7)… the problem is my parents don’t speak fluent english. They know basic English. And especially when the doctor talks to them in medical jargon, they probably have no complete idea of what the doctor’s really saying… but according to my mom, the doctor told my mother that my dad’s liver, kidney and lungs have cysts growing in them. I asked my mom what alternative medication/surgery/therapy can my dad have but my mom said he has little time left and that he can’t undergo another surgery because he’s old…
The problem is this is my mom panicking and most likely just speaking from hopelessness… But I asked my mom if the doctor mentioned anything about chemotherapy treatment. My mom said, “no.” And I asked what the doctor suggested, and my mom just stayed quiet. I can’t talk to my mom about finding treatment for my dad because she’s too emotional and she keeps everything a secret.
I need an advice. A psychological, technical or medical advice. Anything. Because I’m not in the medical field. And I’m stressed out enough as it is with my job and full time university. And now, this.
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I’m really sorry that your family is going through this, and the lack of communication and understanding must make an awful situation even worse. If I were in your position, I would get your father’s permission to talk to the doctor about his condition. If by cysts he means that the cancer has spread to these organs, there is often little to do except provide comfort to someone who is very weak from battling the disease for many years.
I wish you and your family all the best.
I came from the same type of family, Polish and very old fashioned old times. I suggest you all calm down, now I don’t know everything about prostate cancer but, I thought I had it but, was treated for a bad infection.
You have to find a good urologist first and then have all you dad’s records sent there. This is the law and they have to abide. Then get your dad in asap and go with him please. You can be there and ask questions if you don’t understand the answers, tell him.
I will say this. I’m sorry but, it doesn’t sound good. This is the problem with prostate cancer, when it’s found, it’s almost to late. When found right away, it’s the easiest to cure. It sounds like it’s already migrated to the internal organs, I am not saying it’s to late but, get him in there now.
My dad had this and it’s was over his organs, he was 93 and couldn’t take the surgery. He lived another three years with medication. Good luck.
OK here goes kinda long but you sound like a concerned son, so rare these days.
The prostate is a male sex organ located at the neck of the bladder below the junction of 2 pubic bones, conical in shape & the size of a chestnut. the function of the prostate is to secrete a fluid in which the sperm cell can live after ejaculation. when enlarged it blocks urination by compressing the urethra
In men over 50, Benign prostatic hypertrophy is a common problem. It is benign in 80% & malignant in 20 %.
The pressence of cancer in the prostate is suggested by occasional drops of blood in the urine & the urologist will feel hard lumps upon examination. Benign enlargement is slowly progressive.
The recommended treatment even benign is surgical removal by either of 2 standard operations, transurethal resection (thru the urethra) or the 2 stage suprapubic operation (thru the abdomen).
In the case of Cancer of the protate, surgical removal offers the only hope of prolonging life. If metastisis to the bones & the vital organs occurs, removal of the testicles & injection of the estrogenic female sex hormone delay the inevitable fatal outcome & relieves pain
Medicine has progressed w/ Prostate Cancer & if your Dad really is at that stage doesn’t mean he is going to die soon. give his I suggest you give his Dr. a call or see him yourself to know the real score. Like you said you Mom is in a state of panic….. so she is presuming the worst!
Good luck!